I am not a pedophile. I have no sexual attraction to children. I defend pedophilia as an orientation. I support non-offending pedophiles, and I will support offenders who choose to begin a non-offending lifestyle. I do not support the lowering of any age-of-consent, and I do not support pro-contact pedophiles.
I wasn’t going to do this until the book was a little further ahead but, today, someone’s Facebook comment pushed me right off the deep end.
Pedophilia is a sexual orientation. It’s not something that can be chosen or controlled. It’s not something that can be “fixed”. (It’s not something that needs to be “fixed”, either.)
What can be chosen is the non-offending lifestyle. With support and people to talk to, anyone can remain a non-offender. As one person phrased it, “I never find it hard to not offend. NEVER.” After all, there are pedophiles who have gone 50 or 60 years without offending, so someone who’s only 12 or 16 can certainly make it another day, yeah?
The people I’ve talked to don’t struggle with not offending. What they struggle with is severe isolation, loneliness, depression, self-loathing, self-doubt, guilt and fear. This is the part that needs to be “fixed”. How can someone expect to avoid seeking comfort if they’re feeling these things, if they can’t talk to a doctor or a priest or a teacher without fear of being reported to the authorities (even if they haven’t committed a crime)? How can a teenager feel loved by their parents if they worry constantly about how their parents will react if they find out?
When someone says, “Pedophilia makes teenagers want to go on week-long drug binges,” are you sure you want to let that go without professional support? Yes, this is an example of the “sick, sick fuck” that people like to threaten. What’s sick, though, has nothing to do with their sexual orientation and everything to do with their mental health.
Educate yourselves, please. These are humans, not monsters.
Here’s a list of some of the delightfully loud-mouthed pedophiles who are literally risking their lives, doing their damnedest to keep everyone safe:
Ender Wiggins: Twitter, blog
Gary Gibson: Dr. Phil, The Daily Mail
Todd Nickerson: Twitter, YouTube
Mells the MAP: YouTube
A whole lot of kick-ass people on Medium.
Some other kick-ass people on VirPed.